Trust

Do we know some of the delicate things/aspects that are still one of the strongest? Ironically, you will come up with a list of such. The end of your list marks the beginning of this blog. 

Trust; is one such element associated with living organisms that is delicate but has so much power when preserved. Each one faces a choice: to trust or not? One makes a choice whether they want to trust another being. Trusting a gut or trusting logic. Trusting because there are reasons to or trust because you heard your intuition signal you. Trust is what precedes and follows these choices. For when you have made a choice to trust, it is also about making the same choice over and over again, until there are red flags waving at you to not trust the same person/process anymore.

Trust is confiding in others, to rely on them. It is about how much dependability in them you choose to invest. Trust is an important element in most relationships; whether they are personal, social or professional. It is widely accepted that trust forms a foundation of the bonds we form and the ones that stand taller. 

As an individual who has trusted, who trusts and vows to trust in the future; I perceive that trusting is a process. It isn't a one time package that you invest in and everything's sorted. No! There are going to be changes in the circumstances which will require a change in you. People fall apart and the ones we trusted do not quality to be trusted in the present and for the future that we desire to build. What then? Emotional reactions in times like these are obvious. One can deal with their own emotions, feel the negative emotions that you are experiencing. Do not reject the fact that it hurts and perhaps an impact is such that one might feel a part of them broke somewhere. However, once you are done whining; make sure you get up with courage to not lose faith in the concept of trust and the power it has. I would like to re-emphasize the fact that one person's inability to hold true to your trust does not mean you lacked in your efforts of building the bond. Broken trust is not equal to never trusting again. It will be then an injustice to ones who know the value of trust, to those who believe in the trust and to you who identifies the depth of trust. It will take conscious efforts to trust again, perhaps you will have to convince yourself to confide in confiding in others, all over again. It will take offering forgiveness to the ones who never apologized. Do it all if that gives you closure; which it can. Do it, because few negative experiences can't define the life course for you. 

There are times when we are at the other side of the fence. The grass isn't always greener on our own side when it comes to good qualities and good behavioral conduct. Reflect on the mistakes that you committed in the past because you weren't equipped then as you are now. This helps us to understand what the other person might have felt like because of our actions. Mistakes are the lessons that we can learn from. Apologize and mean the apology that you offer. Practicing a 'good apology' will offer you chances of making things right again. What then good apology is? It is when you say sorry, accept that it was your mistake by mentioning what it was and you show your willingness to make it right by asking how. There is no point in staying in the past. Today, you get to make the decision.  Decide to value trust, commit to staying true to what you said, make yourself count, convey if you won't be able to uphold someone's trust and trust wisely when you have to. Most problematic situations arise because some individuals trust others blindly. Well, half of the troubles can be avoided if one observes the other person's behavior, assess the link between their words and actions, weigh past experiences, and predicts on basis of rational means how valid it will be to trust the individual in front.

Trust has been one of the characteristics that I look forward to. It is an aspect that requires to be invested in oneself just the way it is invested in other individuals. Another domain of trust, called mutual trust weighs much higher. Haven't you felt the energy that was born out of two individuals trusting each other and staying consistent in their effort to be dependable? 

With changing times, the need arises to evaluate what we give our energy and time to. Trust is tailored differently to the different bonds that you associate with. Keeping in mind to expect reasonable amount of disclosure from another individual is one noteworthy thing. Another, your need of knowing is also present in the other individual. Hence, make sure that you can be relied on and you are promoting trust. 

Here's to the positive impact of trust that can help build relations, to the carefulness that is required while dealing with other individuals who invest trust in us, to the care we must take when we trust other beings, to the delicacy of trust as an element and the power it possesses to mold and determine the way interactions and bonds take turn. 

Love, J.